邱宝菁 I am 林炳龍 5很20 1314920 OOO
Since ever before, I always avoid a puppy love or short-term relationship. I don’t get into a relationship if my heart doesn’t tell she’s the one. Sprit up hurt either one or both, it is not good. Especially Cambodian culture that girl will be affected the worst.
My avoiding and was too serious before involving in a relationship, kept me single for so many years but it worth it. Now I found my soul mate, the right one! How do I know she’s the one? She is my best friend who I always have fun and enjoy when I’m with her. She is my sibling who is loyal to me, take care and protect me always. She is my spouse who gives me happiness, wonderful life and one own family. She is my teacher who I can learn from, and she’s my student who listens and learn from me. Her name is Khou Ching (邱宝菁).
In 2006, my aunt Jen told my mom and I about Ching and her very kind mother. She also told Ching’s mom about my very nice mother and me. One day Jen went to visit Ching’s mother and dragged me along. A few days later, Jen told my mom that Ching’s mother was interested in me but as her grandmother was very sick, they did not want to think about anything else. Since then everyone seemed forget about us, even Ching and I never even given it a thought.
December 2009, I was working in my office then my aunt Jen walked in together with Ching’s mother and her elder aunt. I did not remember or recognize her at all because it had been three years already. They pretended to be my customers, but I felt something connected. I felt warm and as if she was one of my relatives. We had a nice chit-chat more than customer and seller.
January 2010, at late night when I got home after school, mom told me to see her after dinner. I felt normal because I often talk with mom after my dinner alone. Got into her room, she told me the ladies Jen went to my office the other day were Ching’s mother and her elder aunt. Mom said Jen told her that they liked me….. while talking she handed me an envelope. These are the photos of the daughter, she explained. Looking at those photos for awhile I smiled at my mom and said “Maybe…!“ but I actually quite like her Chinese face already.
A few weeks later, my mom told me that my dad and she had saw Ching already and they liked her too. “Your dad rarely likes anybody easily“ she added.
February 01, 2010 I went to see Ching with my mom and Jen, but we pretended to be her customers. She was in her counter, I looked at her and she smiled while I already had been smiling at her. On the next day, my mom gave me Ching’s number but it took me until….
February 03, 2010 at 09:29pm I sent her a SMS and she replied at 09:33pm. That was our first awkward SMSs sent to each other. Since then, we started to talk to each other via SMSs, Yahoo IM, facebook and email. What made us attracted to each other was our honesty and being serious before involve in a relationship. That was what in common we first found in each other. We have the same value which is “I need you to love me for who I am, not who I can be“. As for this value, every single conversation we make, we always tell the truth about us, be honest and be who we really are.
February 14, 2010 was Chinese New Year, at the same time it was the Valentine’s day as well. It took me days to be brave enough to ask her out on a first date, because it was the perfect combination of two occasions. It gave her a hard time to reject my invitation because we just know each other but she did not want to upset me. Moreover, she already had a plan with her family members and friends to go to KTV at Naga World. Eventually, she asked if I would like to join. I do not like KTV and I felt uncomfortable to meet many new people at once. However, I did not want to miss the perfect combination of two occasions, so I accepted her invitation, and I did break the ice.
After that day, we went on many enjoyable and great dates. We learn a lot about each other, and know more about each other. I told myself that I like her, then I changed my facebook status to “In a Relationship“
April 14, 2010 it was Khmer New Year. We had a very wonderful date, we went to many places and did many activities together…… had so much fun like secondary school kids. In the evening, I took her to dinner at TITANIC Restaurant and I gave her some gifts included a scroll which I wrote a message for her. In the message i said “You are my sun at day, and you are my moon at night. I Love You. PS: sun and moon always exist!“ I wished she read it right after I gave it to her so that I can say the three words verbally, but she didn’t. However, she knew what the message was about.
April 19, 2010 I received a wonderful facebook message from her. It was a very long message but I never got lazy to read it over again and again. In the message she said “I Love You too“ with many reasons and explanations. Her facebook status then had been changed from “Single” to “In a Relationship“
May 13, 2010 was our “Official Date“ we had dinner at Sky Bar at The Place. It was our first romantic date. After dinner, we walked from one park to another park, watched a Khmer Rock Band concert The Dengue Fever. That was the first time I hold her hand and we got to HHWW (holding hands while walking).
Since then, we always have romantic dates and many of them. There was once, after a movie we holding hands while walking for one and half hour without feeling tired, though one of my boots had been detached.
When you meet the right person who is your soul mate, no matter how slow you try to make it but it just move fast itself. Our hearts tell us we are mean to be together. We love each other for real.
July 06, 2010 after lunch we were sitting in a couch, I then stood up in front of her and knelt down. One hand I held her hand, another hand I put in my pocket and took out a red box in a heart shape and there was a ring in side. I popped the question! She did not reject but said it was too early for us and she preferred the ring represents our love instead and requested to wait until 11/11/2011.
I understood and we did not want to get married too early either, but because I consider our parents are old and they have many responsibilities for us to take over. That was why I decided to propose her. Plus, I wanted to make her happy and to have that special moment. Girls always expect to have a romantic moment, sweet memories and to have her boyfriend’s proposal that is the most desire they wish for before get married. Therefore, there I did so. Today, the ring is still on her left ring finger!
Our families, our current and future responsibilities and considering the time, plus we truly love each other. 11/11/2011 plan has become an old plan.
September 19, 2010 was our engagement. In the morning, we had our relatives come together introducing them to the new couple officially. Then we had them had lunch at Tunlé Basak Buffet restaurant. After that, we had photo session that was our Engagement Photos. Those photos turn out very nice in quality, meaning and story. Thank to our friend Vantha THAI (Jerry) and Hii Wie Jung for taking such great pictures for us.
I am lucky to have my parents who always understand, warm, they give me a comfortable life, happiness, and love. My sister and brother in law are thoughtful, kind and helpful people. Now I have my parents in law who are thoughtful, nice, kind, warm and love me. My sister in law and her hubby also are well-educated people who are understanding, care and helpful.
It is very fortunate to meet your soul mate, and the families in law members are good people and love you and they get along very well together like best friends.
This is rare but real! I am so lucky!
January 02, 2011 will be our wedding, here I announce. We are working on our wedding theme and scheme.........
.........To be continued
